Essentials For Getting Started With NLP To Grow Your Coaching Practice

Getting started with NLP could give you a big head start in the race for business. But most folks a row of business people ready to get started with NLP and one is breaking out ahead of the othersdon’t really know the real power of NLP.

Some folks think they’ve got NLP because they’ve heard about ‘eye cues’ and what they mean.  Or a bit about how to ‘build rapport’ by doing what the other is doing, or mirroring.

Well, those are a part of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.  But they totally miss the mark as to the real value of embracing  NLP. It is far more than just a set of tools for accelerated behavioral change.

Getting Started With NLP From The Bottom Up

Every body of knowledge has a foundation. That foundation is the core vision, mission, and values.  These inform the way the tools and techniques are built and supposed to be utilized.

It’s unfortunate NLP became so well known for its trail of effective techniques. In a way, it  cheated those interested in the real value of NLP as a model designed to elicit excellence from less than excellent behaviors or limited ways of thinking.

image of a brain uploading new information again and again, generating more potential for creativityEvery individual’s brain creates a model or mental representation of how that person views the world.  And it’s constantly adding to or subtracting from that representation.

The more a person interfaces with the multiple areas of life, the more creative and strategic their brain can become in generating and interweaving those models.

In other words, the more exposure to differing ways of experiencing the world, the more likely the individual is to be a strategic thinker who makes good choices.

“…You’ve got to have multiple models — because if you just have one or two that you’re using, the nature of human psychology is such that you’ll torture reality so that it fits your models, or at least you’ll think it does…It’s like the old saying, “To the man with only a hammer, every problem looks like a nail.”  – 

There are multiple models for mental health.  As a coach, you want to have multiple models for behavioral change and personal transformation.

Exposure To Multiple Mental Models
Keeps You Ahead Of The Crowd

Including various other bodies of knowledge can bring you a big payoff in return clients and more referrals. That’s because you’ll be able to help more people more effectively and efficiently.

In this way, you can enhance your client’s map of the world; expand it, loosen it up a bit, open upimage of a blueprint with pencil and ruler for coach to see architecture of client's inner landscape a few doors and windows that have been nailed shut.  This will enable them to have what they need to make the more wise and strategic decisions they’re requesting.

Of course you have to demonstrate to the unconscious mind that the new behavior, belief, strategy is in the best interest of the client as a whole person. Your clients want change.  But the current way they are viewing the world and themselves is the ultimate problem – and paradoxically –  the ultimate solution.

A Few Recommendations To Check Out

Of course, I’m going to recommend getting started with NLP as a great first step. But, here are just a few of the ‘mental models’ that can support you in helping your client expand their own model of the world, or personal map of reality.

      • NLP
      • Hypnosis
      • EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
      • TAT (Tapas Acupuncture Technique)
      • FO Holding (Frontal Occipital Holding)
      • Callahan Phobia Cure
      • HBLU (Healing From The Body Up)
      • Life Centered Therapy
      • Byron Katie’s 4 Questions
      • Meditation
      • Mindfulness
      • Contemplation
      • Mindset & The Brain
      • Brain Research
      • Traditional Therapeutic Models
      • Stimulus/Response Conditioning
      • Physiological Psychology
      • Leadership Development
      • Organizational Development
      • Human Resources Guidelines
      • Multiple Models For Spiritual Inquiry
      • The Architecture of Presence & Being Here Now
      • Paradox Management

Deciding to begin with NLP is a great first step to exploring mental models. This is because NLP gives you the tools to elicit your client’s mental model, the model that really counts.  And then shows you how to work within them.a woman with a hard hat and blueprint in hand she got from getting started with NLP and learning how to read other's model of the world

When you understand the architecture of your client’s inner landscape, it becomes pretty easy to help them get where they want to go.

After all, that is your promise, spoken or not.  So the more you know, the more quickly and effectively you can help your client reach their goal.



What To Do Next? 

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Meanwhile, may you continue to reshape your own map of the world to bring you all that you desire.

Much love,
Ragini

The Benefits Of NLP Training – Transform Possibility Into Probability

Why am I writing about the benefits of NLP training? I’ve been meeting lots of folks recently who are ready to offer a live or on-line program for something they love and want to share.  But in chatting with each one, I found the majority did not have any training in how to work with people A pile of books and the words Back To School to answer the question of whether to get more NLP training or not.to help them move toward a certain goal.

I kept getting asked, “Do I need a certification? Do I have to become a student again?” Well, here are a few thoughts to consider.


NLP Training Beneficial To Your Coaching Success?
Yes! And No!

There are many reasons to forget about becoming certified.  If you’re looking at marketing yourself as a coach, there are currently no hoops you would have to jump through.  There are no legal requirements for taking on that title and throwing your hat in the ring.

However, coaching another human being so that they succeed in reaching their goal can be confusing and challenging.

Blue figure with 2 dialogue clouds coming out of his head as he contemplates the benefits of NLP training.A recent client who was offering a transformation group shared an upsetting experience. She said when she finished her guided visualization during one of the course meetings, a participant revealed that they couldn’t visualize.

The participant shared that she felt frustrated and felt bad because they couldn’t do what my client was asking them to do.  And, my point is this.

My client said she didn’t have a clue what to say or what to do next.

This is an excellent example of the kinds of experience a lack of training can produce. This, and so many other tools for communication and connection, are part of what you learn in NLP Coach Certification Training.


Certification Confers Credibility & Possibilities

More people than you think assume their coach must have some kind of training, or they wouldn’t be offering their services. So when they Google you, they’re looking for proof that you’ve completed some training program.  Thus, the upside of certification is that you’re automatically Image of lady holding a briefcase that has the word "skills" on it representing the benefits of NLP training..granted credibility.

Credentials often free clients from worrying about how long you’ve been in the business, or how good or not so good you might be. So it’s obvious that certification carries a lot of weight because it creates helpful assumptions that usually remain unchallenged.

But most important, certification gives you the actual skill development that most untrained coaches don’t have.  So it allows you to have the tools, and the skills to use them. Thus you’re able to give you and your business the great reputation you want to create.

Reputations are important because great reputations bring you new clients, repeat clients, and fabulous referrals.  And your skill is what makes this happen.


Are You Talking About Transformation? Or Delivering It? 

There are many benefits to NLP training. But one of the greatest is being able to deliver your client to what they know they need; whether they believe they don’t have it, can’t find it, or can’t reach it, even if they’ve experienced it before.

Secret #One:

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Are Client’s Limitations The Problem? Or That They Believe They’re True?

We human beings are funny creatures.  Just because something arises in our mind – be it a thought or a feeling – we tend to assume it is telling us the truth.

So we accept our thought or emotion as accurate  which closes the door to perusing other possible interpretations to the experience.

This automatic assumption of accuracy leads us to believe the thought or feeling is the truth … and then we act accordingly, displaying behaviors from love and compassion to hate and violence.

People rarely take the time to make a distinction between a thought or feeling being accurate  vs. being valid.  Yet this little moment of inquiry can save oodles of time, drama, and suffering.

file0002125234983Accuracy implies a final truth.  No matter how I look at it, the answer is always the same.  There’s no variation and nothing else could change the fact of it.

Validity implies that if I stood in your shoes, I could also feel or think the same thing because that’s how things actually look from that point of view. 

When you can see things from multiple points of view, you can see for yourself that each viewpoint is indeed valid, but not accurate, or a final truth.

You discover all viewpoints are also incomplete. They lack the whole picture that truth requires by virtue of the fact that viewpoints only reflect the single view that naturally arises from the point where you’re standing.

Change where you’re standing, and your view changes automatically.

This is a powerful understanding to keep in mind, not only for your clients, but also for yourself.

Whether it’s overt or covert, helping your clients expand their perceptual flexibility (freedom to peruse multiple viewpoints) can speed up their ability to release limiting beliefs. This skill will move them forward more efficiently in their exploration of how to better live their lives.

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Want To Be A Healer? But … Is It Really Possible To Heal Another?

The best answer I’ve ever found to this question is the word ‘Po’, coined by Edward DeBono, a modern non-Aristotelian logician.

‘Po’ means neither yes nor no. It means you are neither for nor against either possibility. It means moving beyond the no of logic (that leads you to the right answer), and the yes of belief systems (that make you feel you have the right answer).


‘Po’ positions you in the space surrounding either yes or no as the right answer.

‘Po’ deposits you at the home address of true creativity; that point of power where two opposites meet and merge into a new whole, a new insight, or a new guideline.



What Does This Have To Do With Healing?

Well, here’s the thing. The safest position to take on this question is ‘Po’. Let’s take a look at why I say this.

On the one hand, it sure looks like healers heal others when healing is defined as taking away painbutterfly-on-leaves-in-sun and suffering. If it’s physical pain, the release can be accomplished many ways: an aspirin, acupuncture, surgery, repairing broken links between organs, systems and the brain, and many more.

If it’s emotional pain, reducing that emotional challenge is definitely do-able with the newest Energy Psychology techniques such as Callahan Tapping, EFT, TFT, TAT and many others. You can rearrange the configuration of images, sound, and feeling that create the emotion via techniques from NLP or hypnosis in deep or waking trance. And of course, there’s the age old technique of  simply giving someone a hug or just reaching out and gently taking their hand.

If it’s mental pain, releasing fixed points of view that hamper perceptual flexibility can be accomplished by challenging presuppositions, introducing new models of meaning and purpose, or a simple re-education of how things actually work, like relationships or the fact that consequences are the other side of the coin of accountability.

So clearly healers can release pain in a variety of ways. Yet, here’s where a much more important question emerges; a question far more important for you as the healer than for the one being healed.

Who Is Doing The Healing?
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Are You Aware of Rapport’s Slippery Reality?

Everyone in this business knows that rapport is the bottom line IF you want to get the change the client is asking for. But we don’t always stay tuned into rapport throughout the course of a session – and THAT creates more problems than almost anything else.

Most of us define rapport as something that happens when two folks can relate to each other, connect, or feel safe; in other words, when you like each other. In the world of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), rapport is defined as your connection, or lack of it, with the unconscious mind – not whether the client likes you, or feels safe with you.

Your first job is to create rapport with the client’s unconscious mind – and then sustain it. Or, what I have found to be even more important, knowing when rapport gets broken and how to re-establish it on the spot!

How do you get an unconscious mind to feel safe with you? Not necessarily by being nice and kind, or looking and sounding understanding. The unconscious mind knows that you see it when you reflect back its own patterns.

We all easily relate to people we feel are the same as us. We assume because they are so similar, they can understand us and that creates a feeling of safety – as if we’re in the presence of a member of our own tribe.

NLP is widely known for teaching students to create rapport by mirroring their client’s body postures, movements, eye patterns, and language. But the key is knowing how to assess whether or not you succeeded in establishing rapport with the unconscious mind.

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