Draining Beliefs Of Their Truthful Feeling

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Beliefs are the glue that hold a personal reality in place. And when that reality gets stretched to its limits, the beliefs either break down, making space for something new, or settle into the shape of a conviction that cannot be moved or shaken.

Clients come in all shapes and sizes as do their beliefs.  In addition, the way they relate to their beliefs is also quite varied. Here are a few tips for identifying where your client is in this vast spectrum, and how to respond:

  • Has your client questioned whether or not their beliefs are the TRUTH? Or do they just assume what they believe IS the truth and operate from that assumption?

    Help your client explore alternative perspectives via the ‘as if’ question format:  Now I know this isn’t the truth, but WHAT IF the opposite were the actual case?  What new options might be there? Or how might you relate to things differently if you approached the situation with this alternative view?

  • Is it clear to you that they have thought about the validity of their belief and remain convinced that their belief is indeed the TRUTH.

    Help your client think a bit more deeply by gently offering counterexamples that challenge their conviction as a universal truth. Keep it light and in the form of a question:  What about the circumstance where (counterexample) happens? How do you imagine that can occur?

  • Some clients intellectually know that their beliefs are not true and that they limit them. BUT the beliefs still feel true in their bodies. This is confusing to most people and can evoke feelings of shame and a sense of failure and/or incompetence.

    Help your client understand this is a great place to be and that it is now possible to get rid of that feeling of truth in the body. Explain that the belief still feels like a truth in the body because of the amount of emotional charge attached to it.

    If you have permission from their system to clear out this belief because it limits them, you can proceed to an Energy Psychology tool or equivalent process. The objective is to choose a tool that will lower the emotional charge until the belief shifts from the felt sense of a truth back into simply a thought that they can act on or not.

There may be other categories of response to seemingly truthful beliefs as well.  But these three seem to be most prevalent.

BASIC NOTIONS ABOUT BELIEFS & TRUTH

There are some basic notions about beliefs and truth to explore with your10280412_s client when needed.

First, make sure your client can distinguish between a relative truth (one that has operating relevance in their personal life) versus an absolute truth (one that is true for everyone, or universally). Offering this distinction can open the door to greater possibilities, insights, and understandings.

For example, how they relate to pistachio ice cream (it’s the best to it sucks) offers a truth based on their own experience (bite of ice cream  + like or dislike flavor + generalization out to all pistachio flavored things + the same response will be there for all people who eat pistachio ice cream). Obviously, not everyone experiences pistachio ice cream with the same response. Thus their experience is relative.

Experiences that fall into universal truth would be rain is wet, oranges are round, breathing  is composed of an in-breath and an out-breath. These experiences are the same for all people.

Second, the introduction of this distinction creates awareness that the reason we form beliefs is because we can’t know the actual truth. When this is the case, we almost always will create a story or belief that helps us better navigate the unknown or unknowable. For example, beliefs about what happens after death, or deciding that Jane didn’t go out on a second date with Hal because he’s overweight.

Bringing conscious awareness to this distinction makes the freedom they’ve been seeking from the limitation/problem/challenge more available. And that is part of what brought them to see you in the first place, whether they consciously knew it or not.

Simply becoming aware that Belief IS NOT EQUAL To Truth can be incredibly freeing.

BELIEFS, TRUTH, AND POLARIZATION

Extreme polarization is increasingly common today.  And with it, comes increased stress8248999_s and anxiety. Why?

No fixed idea can become a permanent guide to happiness or peace of mind.  Things evolve, growth happens, and things change.

When our beliefs are fixed, we lose the ability to navigate our lives and the world effectively.

Without flexibility, we cannot navigate the continually shifting twists and turns of life. And as we’re seeing, this can result in extreme reactive behavior (anger, violence, war), or giving way to giving up  (sadness, despair, hopelessness, and helplessness).

Once your client knows intellectually that their belief is not THE truth and thus limiting them from accessing their full potential to respond, you’ve got a green light to go ahead and show your client how to drain that belief of all its power.

And be sure to remind them that they can direct their own process to re channel the released energy into a new form of expression that is of their own choice (curiosity, excitement, flexibility of viewpoint, etc).

Hope these tips have opened up a new door or two to better serving your clients with love and respect. The beauty of the journey is right there in the unfolding of their own unique process.

If you have any questions, or would like to know more, please give me a call at 425 462 4369.

Best to you,
Ragini

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Know How To Quickly Deplete The Power Of Limiting Beliefs?

Did you know that a limiting belief only becomes truly powerful when you feel it in your body  as a truth?

You see, it is the amount of emotional charge attached to a belief, regardless of whether the belief is limiting or empowering, that changes it from just an idea into the feeling  or experience of it as a truthful statement or accurate assessment.

Imagine one of your undesirable beliefs with a big suitcase attached to it. And imagine that suitcase is filled with a ton of feelings that make the suitcase very heavy and painful to carry around.

Now pull up an empowering belief that you also feel in your body  is a truth. As you feel that truth, imagine a similar suitcase attached to it. And notice that this one is also filled with a ton of feelings. But the difference is that this suitcase feels very light and affects you more like a helium balloon that lifts you up and gives a bounce to your step.

In the case of the problematic limiting belief, you may be clear intellectually that the belief is not the truth; but despite that knowledge, it continues to feel like ‘truth’ in your body. And this ‘truth’ dictates how you perceive, and thus, react, to whatever situation you’re facing – and your possibilities within it.

For example, think of a time when you stood in front of someone you thought was totally 1-IMG_7056 gorgeous or drop dead handsome, so much so that you knew with stunning clarity that you were out of your league.

Remember your reaction? How you felt yourself shrinking or trying to hide? The awful feeling of knowing there was no hope of anything happening here? Did you feel embarrassed or start stumbling over your words with shyness?

What is the key to changing this kind of painful predicament and its hurtful consequences arising from the limiting belief thought to be a truth? It’s much easier than you might think. Continue reading