Why Getting Started With NLP Today Means Greater Success Tomorrow

Why is getting started with NLP as soon as possible so important?  Because with NLP skills in your back pocket, you catapult yourself toward  a very high return on your investment.

And that results in a successful and long term coaching career.

The value of traditional coaching is obvious. Its continued popularity is proof enough. However, often times coaches report feeling they can’t go quite as far in helping their clients as they’d like.

One of my students who was already a traditionally trained coach, recently shared that her client wanted to experience warmth. But she confided to me that she didn’t think writing this on a piece of paper and putting it on the wall would do much to achieve the goal. Nor would affirmations, or creating a strategy to find it.  So this experience revealed a gap in her professional training.

And that triggered her getting started with NLP training.  When the power and perspectives of Neuro-Linguistic Programming enter the scene, you can count on more easily and quickly being free to save the day.

Getting Clear On What You Know & Don’t Know

As a traditionally trained coach, you become very skilled in the art of asking questions.  This is essential in several ways.  Questions empower you to do 3 very important things:

      • Separate inquiry from giving advice
      • Discover the client’s goal or outcome
      • Uncover the strategies required to reach the goal

These are important and must be addressed for success.  However, more is often needed to actually move the client toward the desired goal.

I’m sad to say that intellectual clarity does not automatically breed behavioral change.  As a result, you can be crystal clear about what you want AND how to get it;  yet remain unable to actually reach your goal.

Knowing what you need to do, and being able to do it, are two distinct phases of reaching any desired outcome.

Only rarely is this situation the result of laziness or a lack of commitment.  More often than not, it is due to an objection or concern about actually reaching the desired outcome.  And for long term success as a coach, you must know how to identify these objections and how to address them.

NLP Loves Objections: They Are The
Gateway To Transformation

Objections become a problem for the coach when they are approached incorrectly.   So it is imperative that you can recognize these four components:

        1. There is an objection
        2. What the objection is
        3. How to find it
        4. How to successfully answer the objection so it’s no longer an issue

Getting started with NLP skills allows you to address objections easily and quickly.

Many coaches have an adverse reaction to objections. Continue reading

Understanding The Enneagram Guarantees You’ll Be A Better Coach

Understanding the Enneagram adds more power to whatever kind of coach you may be, or wish to be. It also opens the door to greater personal happiness and contentment.

Having the Enneagram as one of your of core tools is immensely helpful to long term success. You’ll be able to assess your client’s core issues very quickly. And that means generating more return clients and even more fabulous referrals.

The Problem With A Private Coaching Business

As a solo-preneur, or owner of a small coaching business,  you soon discover:

      • What it takes to keep the business up and running and financially successfulSports Coach giving a time out signal to pause and reevaluate what understanding the Enneagram can do for your career.
      • How much hard work it takes to keep a steady stream of clients pouring in
      • The amount of time, energy, and money spent creating fresh marketing funnels that can prove their worth & effectiveness

I’ve found there is an easier way to create your success, both professionally and financially.  I’m not saying you won’t have to engage in these marketing activities.  They are part and parcel of survival in today’s marketplace economy.

BUT … there is another path to professional and financial success. And it’s a path you might want to consider traveling FIRST.

Before hopping on the marketing wagon (which you will have to do sooner or later), get the fundamental ingredients for a real and satisfying success as a premiere coach,no matter which kind you may wish to be.

The Solution To Your Coaching Success  

The more tools you have in your skill set, the higher the probability of your immediate success rate with clients.

And when your client views their time with you as a success,
that means return clients, great referrals,
and more financial stability.

So first, before anything else, invest your time, money and precious life energy in what will bring you the most long term return on your investment.

And in my experience, that is: Continue reading

NLP, Your Biology, And Spiritual Healing

your brain will light up when you understand the connection between NLP, your biology, and spiritual healingIn this second installment, let’s take a look at NLP, your biology, and spiritual healing. 

In my previous post What Could NLP Possibly Have To Do With Spirituality, we took a look at how NLP can support the quest for living a more spiritually oriented life.

The article noted that NLP is known for it’s use of language to help bridge the gap between a client’s desired state and their current state. And it does this by tapping into the brain’s power to create new neural pathways.

In this case, the client wants help in bridging the gap between being both a human being and a spiritual being.

 

What You Should Know About Biology &
The Power Of Your Cells 

We all have a mind and a body.

So let’s check out the body’s influence on our desire to evolve and live into a more spiritually informed life. I’m talking here about folks who want more mindfulness, presence, and awareness integrated into their daily activities.

To help us better understand why this is so difficult, let me reference Dr. Bruce Lipton, the creator of The Biology of Perception videos.

In his YouTube videos, Dr. Lipton states that the cells in your body are programmed to do only twoThe world blossoms when you understand the connection between NLP, your biology, and spiritual healing things: either grow or protect.

The cell can be in growth mode. That means moving toward positive signals or nutrients. 

OR, the cell can be in protection mode. That means moving away from negative signals or toxins.

It seems the whole physical system is set up on an either/or basis.  It operates like an on/off switch. It’s not like a dimmer mechanism that flows between on and off.

Unfortunately, ‘flow’  is what folks into meditation, mindfulness, contemplation and living a spiritually infused life are actually asking for.

They want to seamlessly flow between the tasks and responsibilities of being human AND the joys of being divine love and compassion.

BUT … the more protection the cell determines it needs, the less growth it can make. No matter what’s going on, for the cells, it’s all about survival first.

The Desire To Stay Safe
vs. The Desire To Risk Beyond The Known 

Dr. Lipton says that ‘perception rewrites genes’. If he’s correct, how you perceive things can affect your biology, brain, and behavior.  Wow!  That is a very amazing thing to consider.

Remember the three sets of conflicting guidelines identified in the last post? And how we almost always find ourselves struggling over which guideline to follow? 

I’ll share them again so they’re fresh in your mind.

Human Self:    Keep moving & go after what you want.
Divine Self:     Stay still & be grateful for what is.

Human Self:   Focus on the future & expect to get what you want
Divine Self:     Focus on the present & let things be as they are.

Human Self:   Heal your wounds from the past.
Divine Self:     You are perfect as you are. 

We struggle with these because we view them as contradictory and incompatible.animation of confused person trying to make a decision

As we struggle to make a choice, it feels like a real battle in our body – stressful, frustrating, and confusing.  Which will win our energy and commitment?

Perceiving these guidelines with mindfulness and presence would be approaching them as complementary.

Remember the cells? When they’re healthy, they can stay balanced, growing when needed, and protecting when needed. No fight.  Just responding to the call of the moment.

You can transform your perception of these contradictory guidelines to actually being complementary to each other.  You can learn to perceive them as a working partnership which in fact they actually are.

 

Embracing this understanding can free you to create a new neural pathway in the brain. And you can embrace them most easily with the support of language & imagination.

And these are the cornerstones of the NLP model for accelerated behavioral change.

Not Sure Brain Cells Can Grow New Neural Networks?

Here’s the link to a 42 second YouTube video showing a time lapse of a neural network growing over 170 hours. CLICK BELOW TO WATCH

So what can trigger the creation of a new neural pathway?  How can combining NLP, your biology & spiritual healing cause this happen?

Transforming the new idea into language & then into imagination. 

Of course, the new perception has to be strong enough to actually stimulate the brain into action. That can take a long time.  However, NLP can help you speed up the process. It is truly  worth checking out.

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Much love to you,
Ragini

 

 

 

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What Could NLP Possibly Have To Do With Spirituality?

Is there any connection between NLP & spiritual healing? Interesting question. Let’s say the answer is both ‘yes’ and ‘no’.

      • NLP has to do with the mind.
      • Spirituality has to do with something greater than the mind.
      • NLP is great at bridging the gap between problems and their solutions.
      • Spirituality offers a taste of what lies on the other side of the gap between being human and being divine.

If you believe we humans beings are also divine beings, a specific conundrum arises.

Whatever language a person uses to reference their religious or spiritual life, they are using words. NLP is the art of utilizing language to transform a perceived problem into its desired solution.

The ‘neuro’ part of Neuro-Linguistic Programming has the goal of accessing the brain’s neuroplasticity.   When directed to do so, the brain is capable of creating new neural pathways to carry the new perceptions your clients (or you) wants to have.

The Emergence Of Bewildering Advice

Being both human and divine generates some confusing and paradoxical guidelines.  You’ve heard them all. But you may not realize how they influence the way you live, make decisions, and try to resolve the hard challenges that keep arising in daily life.

Here are 3 of the most confusing sets of guidelines for being successful, happy AND peaceful: Continue reading

Avoiding These 3 Ideas Supercharge Efficient Communication

Today’s clients want change fast which means efficient communication. In our everyday world, speed has become king. And personal growth is not immune to this desire.

Speed is in high demand. And on top of that, you may find yourself dealing with time constraints also imposed on the client’s desire for personal growth & professional development.

This reality is forcing coaches to learn how to work faster, more efficiently, and most important, remain as effective as ever in producing long term results.

The key to handling this conundrum is discovering and embracing the art of rapport.

Efficient communication can be disrupted when you become:

      • Secretly ambivalent about seeing new clients
      • Nervous about starting to get your coaching career off the ground
      • At a loss to understand why a very ‘easy’ client suddenly became ‘difficult’
      • Sensing you lost your client somewhere along the way and don’t know why or how
      • Afraid to take on a client who seems resistant to doing the work, yet wants the change they’re asking for
      • Exasperated, but suddenly confident that person falls into the category of being  ‘uncoachable’
      • Certain your client isn’t ‘ready’ to do the work they need to do to get the change they want

Without The Skill To Develop & Maintain Rapport
You Can Reach Unhelpful Conclusions

These concerns have contributed to the development of three very unhelpful notions that block efficient communication. And my concern is that these ideas have become all too prevalent, and accepted as true, in the world of coaching.

Because these ideas provide the coach with a reason for the appearance of all of the above stated concerns, they have the power to interrupt the coaching process, often before it truly begins.

When left unchallenged, these ideas can become the stated reason why the coach is not able to get the client to their stated goal – leaving you, the coach, (and your client) feeling a bit lost, confused, and frustrated.

When a coach embraces these three ideas as the ‘truth’ about their client, the coach’s value and usefulness to the client can quickly fade into the background.

And this also leaves the coach feeling less than great about their skill, and often doubting their competence & capabilities.

Are you feeling a little pressured because clients are generally expecting quick results? If so, you may be at the effect of these 3 pervasive ideas.  They can 1) disrupt efficient communication, 2)  stymie your success and 3) cut you off from your professional creative power.


The 3 Ideas Sure To Disrupt Efficient Communication 

Too frequently I hear the following 3 notions as the reason a client is not reaching their goal. And, why the coach is helpless to make it different.

      • The first most pervasive notion is that it is possible for a client to be ‘un-coachable’.

      • The second most pervasive notion is that the client isn’t ready to make the change they say they want.

      • And the third most pervasive notion is that the client doesn’t really want to change.

These all translate into the notion that somehow the problem is with the client. And that may or may not be the reality of the situation.

With the proper skills, these three ideas lose their power and sense of truthfulness.

This skill-set frees the coach to dive into the what is now an open book – and help the client keep moving toward their goal.

 

All clients automatically become ‘coachable’ when you know how to establish rapport with their unconscious mind.


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What’s The Importance Of Building Rapport In Coaching?

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Could you be underestimating the importance of building rapport in coaching?  Here’s why it is extremely important; and why it is not to be overlooked:

  • Rapport is the number one key to having your clients return. Not only for a few follow up sessions. But calling you for help with new issues years later, again and again. They will remember you and court your guidance to help them navigate through new problems. And all of this based on the rapport you established the first time around.

  • Rapport is the number one key to unlocking your client’s desire to shout your name to the rooftops with lavish and powerful referrals. They feel happy with how they felt in your presence. AND grateful you helped them get where they wanted to go. With great rapport, clients can hardly contain their joy and will sing your praises to everyone they know. (Ok. A bit of an exaggeration. But still, after 4 decades of private practice sustained by client referrals only, I can’t say it’s that much of an exaggeration.)

  • Rapport is the number one key to transforming the most difficult and resistant client into one of the easiest and most fun to work with. Knowing how to purposely boxer_throwing_punches_anim_500_clr_6563build rapport can move the most recalcitrant person into wanting to give up the fight. This situation almost begs for your own creative juices to get involved.  And that’s where it becomes fun to work with the previously thought to be ‘difficult and un-coachable’ client.

When I’ve asked coaching professionals if they agree with the importance of building rapport in coaching, this is what I hear again and again: ‘That’s a no-brainer.  Of course it’s important’

Yet, when I ask how they know, for sure, they have rapport, I get a variety of interestingflip_a_coin_catch_500_clr_15516 answers:

  • They seem to like me.
  • Well, they answer all my questions.
  • I’ve worked with their problem before, so my confidence inspires trust.
  • I listen a lot and am not intrusive.
  • I match them energetically and that’s all it takes.
  • My reputation precedes me, so of course they feel comfortable.

So, if what you’re doing is keeping your practice up and running, and growing, that’s great.

But if not, read on and I’ll share with you the real importance of building rapport in coaching. But first….

What is Rapport, Really?

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Well, let me start with what rapport actually isn’t. It’s good to be clear about this. If you start to feel like you’re trying to push a square peg into a round hole, that’s a clue you don’t have it.

Rapport is not:

  • Being liked.
  • People answering your questions
  • Established automatically because of your background or reputation
  • Listening avidly and not asking too many questions.
  • Being from the same hometown, or having the same teachers.

People go to a coach for help in changing a wide range of things: behaviors, limiting beliefs, or debilitating and hurtful notions about who they think they are.

It is this conscious desire to change behavior that can bring them to an NLP Coach rather than a traditionally trained coach.

This is because an NLP Coach is not only trained in the art of skillful inquiry.  They are also trained in the science of accelerated behavioral change.

When does the importance of building rapport in coaching becomes obvious? When you realize it’s the unconscious mind you have to work with. No behavioral change can happen without it’s blessing.

The Key To Accelerated Behavioral Change

Many avenues of personal growth rest on the notion that if you understand why what you’re doing isn’t working, you should be able to change it.

If your strategy is wrong and you generate a new one, you should then be free to do what you couldn’t do before.

If your belief is wrong and you can figure out the right belief, then you should be able to behave in the new ways it allows.

Up to a point, this is certainly true and a useful course of action. But how about after that woman_back_and_forth_questions_500_clr_12477point?

When behaviors don’t change and shifting beliefs and strategies don’t do the trick, another angle of vision is needed.

That angle becomes available in a fundamental NLP skill-set:

The skills for communicating not only with the client’s conscious mind, but with their unconscious mind as well.

Why is this extremely important to know?

It is the unconscious mind that has the power to embrace
OR veto your client’s conscious desire for change.

In NLP, building rapport means establishing trust – with the unconscious mind. And that’s what cinches the importance of building rapport in coaching.

Your client’s unconscious mind needs to trust YOU before it will explore the possibility of embracing that desired new behavior.

Rapport & Your  Client’s Unconscious Mind

Your client’s conscious desire to change is what brings them to you asking for help.  The unconscious mind’s desire is to keep things as they are.show_police_badge_PA_500_clr_3933

The unconscious mind’s job is to protect the client.  It operates out of an uncompromising commitment to safety and protection.

And this is what can make it so difficult, or seemingly impossible, for the client to get the change they want.

The unconscious mind can be completely unaware that a behavior is no longer working for the client.

So it operates under the notion that when something isn’t broken, don’t mess with it.  Keeping the status quo is its favorite M.O.

When you have rapport with the unconscious mind, it trusts you.
But more importantly, it will communicate with you.

As a coach, you want to be free to communicate directly with the mind that is in charge of behavior.

This reveals the importance of building rapport in coaching – and maintaining it throughout your session.  Without it, the process of change can be much slower and stodgier than it needs to be.


If you’re interested in learning more, please CLICK HERE  to sign up for my FREE 30 Minute Webinar – The Art Of Rapport – this coming Tuesday, July 23rd at 9 am PST.

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I hope you found this interesting.  If you’d like to chat with me personally, just go to www.Calendly.com/rm–10/30min to schedule a 30 minute free call at your convenience. I’d be delighted to meet you.

Much love,
Ragini

 

 

 

3 Reasons NLP And Energy Psychology Can’t Be Enemies

Heard Of NLP And Energy Psychology?
Wonder Why These Two Mental Emotional Health Models Actually Make Great Allies?

NLP and Energy Psychology offer practitioners new options to fill the increasing demand for accelerated behavioral change.

Today’s mental and emotional health considerations bring new challenges – resulting in the demand for more short term engagement resulting in greater long term results.

Our fast paced world is forcing all of us to move faster, be quicker on our feet, and stay focused on innovation and what’s next, just to keep up – even if we’re wise enough to know it’s not smart, healthy, or wise.

NLP & Energy Psychology:
New Skill Sets For New & Changing Times

Beliefs about our capabilities, possibilities, sense of identity, and emerging spiritual realities are both expanding and contracting, creating a stronger sense of conflict and fear.

These shifts are forcing today’s mental and emotional health practitioner to move more efficiently and effectively.  To me, that means working at a new and deeper level with both conscious awareness and acceptance.

That deeper level is the unconscious mind.  This moves us past ‘just talk’ to ‘talk from a different angle’.

NLP has been said to revitalize the power
of traditional talk therapy. 

Shifting external forces are combining with the reactivity of confused & frightened internal forces (thoughts & feelings). Together, these continue to shape and reshape our expectations and sense of direction individually and globally.

This creates a fast paced pressure to create a better world (and save the one we have). People simply don’t have the time, money, or energy to invest in long term and expensive therapy.

People want their desired changes to happen fast! today! now!
and preferably yesterday!

People want their brain to be on the same page as their desires.  Limiting beliefs & fears can make that impossible. Unless …

the desired outcome is coded into the brain as a better option than the old unwanted limited beliefs that limit capabilities, possibility, and sense of self.  Here’s how NLP and Energy Psychology come to the rescue.

The Three Reasons

There are three reasons why these two models of mental emotional health can be of great value to you as a coach or consultant. And this applies whether you work with any individuals, teams, or businesses.


ONE:
Limiting beliefs are the cause of more problems than the average person imagines.  NLP technology can pinpoint these beliefs very specifically and quickly. This saves your client valuable time, while freeing them from the burden of unnecessary anxiety & stress.

                              Core beliefs  are those beliefs that are effecting everything .
                         These are most often at the root of most issues. NLP has the tools
to quickly & easily identify these beliefs. 

BUT … more importantly NLP trains it’s practitioners in the art of communicating with the hidden unconscious mind .  This is critical. Why?

Because it is the unconscious mind that has the power to accept or veto any new behavior, belief, or sense of self.

Having the skill to get the client’s unconscious mind on your side means faster and more lasting change. And this usually results in more clarity, and access to inner guidance for your client.


TWO:
People are very hesitant to share an idea they intellectually KNOW is not true, but is ruling their behavior anyway. What holds these limiting ideas in place even though you absolutely KNOW they are limiting, stupid, and self-sabotaging your goals?

It is the heightened emotional charge on these kind of constricting ideas
that hold the limitations in place.

Energy Psychology zeros in on those now identified limiting beliefs your clients intellectually KNOW are not true, but FEEL true anyway.

These tools can then radically reduce the heightened emotional charge holding the constriction and limitation in place.

Energy Psychology tools can shift how the limiting belief FEELS in the body.  And this shifts the client’s relationship to that belief. It’s no long a truth. The reduction of the emotional charge has reshaped it into just an idea they used to believe, but now seems almost irrelevant.

Most EP tools seem counter intuitive to the client.  But if you have the power of rapport on your side (established  through communicating with the unconscious mind) , most are quite willing to follow your guidance and engage in an EP process.


THREE:
NLP
can then take the new belief the client wanted to replace the old one and create a new neurological coding in the brain. This will cause the brain to fire off the better option and flow right past the coding that used to fire the old unwanted belief.

The human process will ALWAYS choose the best option available. 

If this is true, the quest for change means creating more and better options for response.

And creating them as quickly and efficiently as possible with the most lasting results.

This is why i’ts time for NLP and Energy Psychology to partner up and become the most common skill-set in everyone’s tool kit offering accelerated behavioral change.


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Know How To Zap A Limiting Belief Into Oblivion?

I’ll be honest. It’s not quite as fast as I made it sound. But … it can still be done in an amazingly short period of time.

What Is A Limiting  Belief?

A limiting belief is a simple statement that puts restraints on your ability to expand and explore beyond what you know. Rarely are limiting beliefs convoluted or complex.

Limiting beliefs are usually one or two sentences that shut the door to the world of possibilities.

Nobody ever notices me. Nobody is interested in what I have to share. I can’t be wealthy. Wealth is bad. Being beautiful is dangerous. Love is painful. Life is difficult and full of pain. I am worthless. I am incompetent. I will never succeed.file0001694774604

Once you find these little gems that create such suffering and despair, there are a slew of ways to decrease their power and made them into nothing but silly ideas you used to have.

You can approach this problem from many angles. But here I’m going to talk about just one of them from the world of NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

NLP is exquisite at rearranging a limiting thought pattern by challenging the unseen foundation it’s resting on.

The Foundation Supporting A Limiting Belief

What keeps a limiting belief in place? Even when you know better, what makes it so hard to loosen up a limiting belief so you can see it for what it is?

In the world of NLP, the answer is the way the words are put together, or the way the belief is structured in language. Continue reading

Want To Be A Healer? But … Is It Really Possible To Heal Another?

The best answer I’ve ever found to this question is the word ‘Po’, coined by Edward DeBono, a modern non-Aristotelian logician.

‘Po’ means neither yes nor no. It means you are neither for nor against either possibility. It means moving beyond the no of logic (that leads you to the right answer), and the yes of belief systems (that make you feel you have the right answer).


‘Po’ positions you in the space surrounding either yes or no as the right answer.

‘Po’ deposits you at the home address of true creativity; that point of power where two opposites meet and merge into a new whole, a new insight, or a new guideline.



What Does This Have To Do With Healing?

Well, here’s the thing. The safest position to take on this question is ‘Po’. Let’s take a look at why I say this.

On the one hand, it sure looks like healers heal others when healing is defined as taking away painbutterfly-on-leaves-in-sun and suffering. If it’s physical pain, the release can be accomplished many ways: an aspirin, acupuncture, surgery, repairing broken links between organs, systems and the brain, and many more.

If it’s emotional pain, reducing that emotional challenge is definitely do-able with the newest Energy Psychology techniques such as Callahan Tapping, EFT, TFT, TAT and many others. You can rearrange the configuration of images, sound, and feeling that create the emotion via techniques from NLP or hypnosis in deep or waking trance. And of course, there’s the age old technique of  simply giving someone a hug or just reaching out and gently taking their hand.

If it’s mental pain, releasing fixed points of view that hamper perceptual flexibility can be accomplished by challenging presuppositions, introducing new models of meaning and purpose, or a simple re-education of how things actually work, like relationships or the fact that consequences are the other side of the coin of accountability.

So clearly healers can release pain in a variety of ways. Yet, here’s where a much more important question emerges; a question far more important for you as the healer than for the one being healed.

Who Is Doing The Healing?
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