Political Polarization Got You? What To Do To Find Your Balance Once Again

Do you know when political polarization takes you over? Are you aware how it feels in your body?  Is it possible you’re trying to get rid of a frightening dilemma by choosing one side of thetwo people walking in opposite directions due to political polarization political spectrum as better and more correct than the other side?

If so, these tips based on NLP and spiritual inquiry will help you return to a calmer and clearer space.  This potentially explosive time for politics, and the form of government in general, creates a powerful opportunity.  You have the chance to dramatically expand your awareness, presence, and consciousness moment to moment.

Embrace this tumultuous time and catapult your view of things to a new and more expanded perspective.  

What does this current circumstance of political polarization offer you besides angst, anger, and confusion?  It’s a great opportunity, if you wish it to be. Expand your desire to become more conscious into a daily, if not moment to moment, empowering practice.  Simply watching the news can create this circumstance for you.

The goal is three-fold:

      1. Being able to navigate the presence of such political turmoil with a new level of conscious awareness and calm.
      2. Allowing conscious awareness and calm to emerge from the perspective (viewpoint) that frees you to remain balanced.
      3. Embracing balance as the key that allows you to embrace and live the wisdom that being aware and present offer moment to moment.

Tip #1:

Our rush to polarization is natural. It happens in the blink of an eye.  It is an unconscious reaction.

two people gripped by political polarization fighting over whose in control of the steering wheelDon’t judge yourself.  In the midst of all the political polarization and rhetoric, you are automatically pulled to the position that matches your point of view. You want to honor your values. You want to take a stand FOR your values and AGAINST the opposing values. 

This is the unconscious natural reaction to opposing points of view. One MUST be right and the other wrong.

Yet, conscious awareness demands you remain calm and present to what is – in this instance –  two opposing viewpoints.

Remember that balance is the key – if not outwardly, then inwardly.  To evoke it, simply do the following: 

First, pay attention. Are you aware you’re getting unbalanced on the inside due to the apparent imbalance you’re viewing on the outside?


Tip #2:

The Larger Whole to which we ultimately belong, call it what you wish, demands balance.

This is unfortunately not negotiable. And, yes, it’s hard to accept that the strategy this larger Whole employs to restore balance is the continual arise and fall of opposing points of view. Continue reading

Why Getting Started With NLP Today Means Greater Success Tomorrow

Why is getting started with NLP as soon as possible so important?  Because with NLP skills in your back pocket, you catapult yourself toward  a very high return on your investment.

And that results in a successful and long term coaching career.

The value of traditional coaching is obvious. Its continued popularity is proof enough. However, often times coaches report feeling they can’t go quite as far in helping their clients as they’d like.

One of my students who was already a traditionally trained coach, recently shared that her client wanted to experience warmth. But she confided to me that she didn’t think writing this on a piece of paper and putting it on the wall would do much to achieve the goal. Nor would affirmations, or creating a strategy to find it.  So this experience revealed a gap in her professional training.

And that triggered her getting started with NLP training.  When the power and perspectives of Neuro-Linguistic Programming enter the scene, you can count on more easily and quickly being free to save the day.

Getting Clear On What You Know & Don’t Know

As a traditionally trained coach, you become very skilled in the art of asking questions.  This is Figure standing on square one of getting started with NLP.essential in several ways.  Questions empower you to do 3 very important things:

      • Separate inquiry from giving advice
      • Discover the client’s goal or outcome
      • Uncover the strategies required to reach the goal

These are important and must be addressed for success.  However, more is often needed to actually move the client toward the desired goal.

I’m sad to say that intellectual clarity does not automatically breed behavioral change.  As a result, you can be crystal clear about what you want AND how to get it;  yet remain unable to actually reach your goal.

Knowing what you need to do, and being able to do it, are two distinct phases of reaching any desired outcome.

Only rarely is this situation the result of laziness or a lack of commitment.  More often than not, it is due to an objection or concern about actually reaching the desired outcome.  And for long term success as a coach, you must know how to identify these objections and how to address them.

NLP Loves Objections: They Are The
Gateway To Transformation

Objections become a problem for the coach when they are approached incorrectly.   So it is imperative that you can recognize these four components:

        1. There is an objection
        2. What the objection is
        3. How to find it
        4. How to successfully answer the objection so it’s no longer an issue

Getting started with NLP skills allows you to address objections easily and quickly.

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Your Personality Can Evolve & Help You Be Happier & More Successful!

      • Are you aware that your personality can evolve & help you be more successful?
      • To learn how, begin by taking an Enneagram test.
      • Using the Enneagram Test with your clients can profoundly impact your professional success by increasing the number of your return clients & referrals of high praise?
      • Are you aware that the personality, so unique to each person, also has a specific structure?
      • Would you like to know how to use that structure to help your clients (and yourself) reach those desired goals more quickly and efficiently?

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In some way or another, the great minds of the past have consistently given us the same direction for happiness & mental emotional health:

“Know Thyself”

Well, as you most certainly know, that is not as easy to accomplish as it sounds!

The personality IS the primary culprit blocking access
to the guidance this wisdom offers.

So, it makes sense to know more about the personality in order to be aware of the specific roadblocks both you and your clients will encounter and need to break through.

The Enneagram test will allow you to do just that.

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NLP, Your Biology, And Spiritual Healing

your brain will light up when you understand the connection between NLP, your biology, and spiritual healingIn this second installment, let’s take a look at NLP, your biology, and spiritual healing. 

In my previous post What Could NLP Possibly Have To Do With Spirituality, we took a look at how NLP can support the quest for living a more spiritually oriented life.

The article noted that NLP is known for it’s use of language to help bridge the gap between a client’s desired state and their current state. And it does this by tapping into the brain’s power to create new neural pathways.

In this case, the client wants help in bridging the gap between being both a human being and a spiritual being.

 

What You Should Know About Biology &
The Power Of Your Cells 

We all have a mind and a body.

So let’s check out the body’s influence on our desire to evolve and live into a more spiritually informed life. I’m talking here about folks who want more mindfulness, presence, and awareness integrated into their daily activities.

To help us better understand why this is so difficult, let me reference Dr. Bruce Lipton, the creator of The Biology of Perception videos.

In his YouTube videos, Dr. Lipton states that the cells in your body are programmed to do only twoThe world blossoms when you understand the connection between NLP, your biology, and spiritual healing things: either grow or protect.

The cell can be in growth mode. That means moving toward positive signals or nutrients. 

OR, the cell can be in protection mode. That means moving away from negative signals or toxins.

It seems the whole physical system is set up on an either/or basis.  It operates like an on/off switch. It’s not like a dimmer mechanism that flows between on and off.

Unfortunately, ‘flow’  is what folks into meditation, mindfulness, contemplation and living a spiritually infused life are actually asking for.

They want to seamlessly flow between the tasks and responsibilities of being human AND the joys of being divine love and compassion.

BUT … the more protection the cell determines it needs, the less growth it can make. No matter what’s going on, for the cells, it’s all about survival first.

The Desire To Stay Safe
vs. The Desire To Risk Beyond The Known 

Dr. Lipton says that ‘perception rewrites genes’. If he’s correct, how you perceive things can affect your biology, brain, and behavior.  Wow!  That is a very amazing thing to consider.

Remember the three sets of conflicting guidelines identified in the last post? And how we almost always find ourselves struggling over which guideline to follow? 

I’ll share them again so they’re fresh in your mind.

Human Self:    Keep moving & go after what you want.
Divine Self:     Stay still & be grateful for what is.

Human Self:   Focus on the future & expect to get what you want
Divine Self:     Focus on the present & let things be as they are.

Human Self:   Heal your wounds from the past.
Divine Self:     You are perfect as you are. 

We struggle with these because we view them as contradictory and incompatible.animation of confused person trying to make a decision

As we struggle to make a choice, it feels like a real battle in our body – stressful, frustrating, and confusing.  Which will win our energy and commitment?

Perceiving these guidelines with mindfulness and presence would be approaching them as complementary.

Remember the cells? When they’re healthy, they can stay balanced, growing when needed, and protecting when needed. No fight.  Just responding to the call of the moment.

You can transform your perception of these contradictory guidelines to actually being complementary to each other.  You can learn to perceive them as a working partnership which in fact they actually are.

 

Embracing this understanding can free you to create a new neural pathway in the brain. And you can embrace them most easily with the support of language & imagination.

And these are the cornerstones of the NLP model for accelerated behavioral change.

Not Sure Brain Cells Can Grow New Neural Networks?

Here’s the link to a 42 second YouTube video showing a time lapse of a neural network growing over 170 hours. CLICK BELOW TO WATCH

So what can trigger the creation of a new neural pathway?  How can combining NLP, your biology & spiritual healing cause this happen?

Transforming the new idea into language & then into imagination. 

Of course, the new perception has to be strong enough to actually stimulate the brain into action. That can take a long time.  However, NLP can help you speed up the process. It is truly  worth checking out.

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Much love to you,
Ragini

 

 

 

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Is There A Relationship Between Love And Coaching?

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Do you think there is a relationship between love and coaching? Does your presence a contributing factor? It may seem strange to think about ‘love’ having a place in coaching. Yet, in my world, it is the fundamental ground for all success. Why would that be?

Well, I guess we first have to create a working definition for this very powerful word that brings up all kinds of responses and reactions.

So here’s how I’m going to define it for the purpose of finding its place in coaching. (And all other areas concerned with lessening the suffering and confusion we human beings can’t seem to get away from.)

Love: the release of all personal & professional judgement about who is in front of you, the way they are perceiving their reality, and how they are navigating their lives.

2 hands releasing a hoard of butterflies into the airSound simple? Well, most folks in the people helping professions would say this is a ‘no-brainer’.

Yet, we all find out, sooner or later, that it’s not so easy to actually do.

Why Love In Action Is Both Simple & Easy WHEN You Have The Skills You Need

Here’s where awareness, presence, consciousness, and the power of mindfulness enter the scene.

These capacities offer a bit of distance from what is in front of your eyes and ears and emotions. They allow you to take that needed ‘step back’ from your reactions and assessments (including your beautiful psychological, emotional, and energetic training).

That tiny step away from the situation frees you to find a new ground that allows you to take a new kind of action. That is action based on clarity about the client’s view of reality (both problem & solution).

One of the most helpful models for accomplishing this seemingly easy but actually very challenging task is NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). NLP is well known for its trail of almost magical, fast change techniques.

BUT … I found its most amazing contribution to be the fundamental skill set for communication with the unconscious mind, which is the key for developing an uncanny level of trust, and the uncanny results that come with it.

Communication With The Unconscious Mind Is The Key

This NLP skill set offers the precise tools for demonstrating the relationship between love and coaching.  

It’s what I call Love In Action – a deep respect for and acceptance of the client’s personal and very unique sense of reality.

an image of 2 cartoon men communicating with each other using two tin cans connected by a string.Respect and acceptance is what happens when you can suspend your judgments and assessments about what’s wrong and what needs to be fixed or corrected.

It’s easy to pay lip service to the fundamental coaching perspective: Your client is perfect as they are.

However, it requires skill to demonstrate this in your actual words and behavior.

Why is this important? So the client’s unconscious mind finds you worthy of its trust.

And the unconscious mind has to trust you in order to grant permission for the requested change to actually emerge.

I am a faithful proponent of including NLP into every coach’s repertoire. This model gave me the gift of running my private practice for over 4 decades by referrals only. I think that speaks for its efficacy and effectiveness.

Why Judgment Limits Awareness
Even When You Believe It’s Accurate

When judgement happens outside of your awareness, (even if it’s an accurate assessment), the judgment (whether positive or negative) still shows in your non-verbal and often verbal behaviors, like tonality, tempo, inflection, and volume. This can even impact how you unconsciously structure your sentences.

My point is thattwo hands couching a ball between them floating in the air that says RESPECT in capital letters if you’re unaware of your own judgments about what you’re perceiving in the other (even if you’re seeing a perfect match to your psychological training for dysfunction), you limit your ability to demonstrate Love In Action.

There is little that can replace the power of communicating respect and true acceptance of the other’s perception of reality. As human beings, we almost all feel more than a little starved for recognition, acceptance, and approval.

Viewed from this angle, the relationship between love and coaching starts to appear obvious.

So even though you have judgments about the way the other is perceiving things, the skill set I’m advocating allows you to consciously and purposefully move beyond them.

This frees you to demonstrate respect and acceptance in both your language and non-verbal communications. You will have developed a discerning eye for the innate challenges of the human condition, and how to perceive beyond their intrinsic limitations.


Love In Action Is Transformation In Action

I would go so far as to assert that demonstrating Love In Action as I’ve defined it here is the most healing and life changing gift you can give another.

It is a rare ability to truly communicate acceptance and respect for another’s perception of reality.

The idea is easy. The actualization of the idea into your behavior requires time and energy to develop.

cartoon image of an unhappy heart with bandages held in hands covered in words like friends, inviting, welcoming, loving, attentiveBut you do have this capacity. And I encourage anyone working with people in any context to take the time to at least explore this powerful skill set offered via NLP.

In so doing, you will amplify the power you bring to the communication table – both conscious and unconscious – whether for professional or personal outcomes.


Where You Can Learn This Skill

You will want this skill set in your communication tool bag. To learn more about how to get it, please go to www.InspiredNLP.com. Take a moment and check out the details for my NLP Coach Certification training granted to me through the original certifying body, The Society Of NLP.

I was honored to study NLP back in the late 1970’s with co-founders Richard Bandler & Grinder, and later on with Robert Dilts and Leslie Cameron Bandler.

Because of that, I can promise a bit of the original purity that always accompanies a great model before it becomes popular and mainstream, and some of what made it so great fades into the background.

Much love to you,

Ragini

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Are Client’s Limitations The Problem? Or That They Believe They’re True?

We human beings are funny creatures.  Just because something arises in our mind – be it a thought or a feeling – we tend to assume it is telling us the truth.

So we accept our thought or emotion as accurate  which closes the door to perusing other possible interpretations to the experience.

This automatic assumption of accuracy leads us to believe the thought or feeling is the truth … and then we act accordingly, displaying behaviors from love and compassion to hate and violence.

People rarely take the time to make a distinction between a thought or feeling being accurate  vs. being valid.  Yet this little moment of inquiry can save oodles of time, drama, and suffering.

file0002125234983Accuracy implies a final truth.  No matter how I look at it, the answer is always the same.  There’s no variation and nothing else could change the fact of it.

Validity implies that if I stood in your shoes, I could also feel or think the same thing because that’s how things actually look from that point of view. 

When you can see things from multiple points of view, you can see for yourself that each viewpoint is indeed valid, but not accurate, or a final truth.

You discover all viewpoints are also incomplete. They lack the whole picture that truth requires by virtue of the fact that viewpoints only reflect the single view that naturally arises from the point where you’re standing.

Change where you’re standing, and your view changes automatically.

This is a powerful understanding to keep in mind, not only for your clients, but also for yourself.

Whether it’s overt or covert, helping your clients expand their perceptual flexibility (freedom to peruse multiple viewpoints) can speed up their ability to release limiting beliefs. This skill will move them forward more efficiently in their exploration of how to better live their lives.

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Want To Be A Healer? But … Is It Really Possible To Heal Another?

The best answer I’ve ever found to this question is the word ‘Po’, coined by Edward DeBono, a modern non-Aristotelian logician.

‘Po’ means neither yes nor no. It means you are neither for nor against either possibility. It means moving beyond the no of logic (that leads you to the right answer), and the yes of belief systems (that make you feel you have the right answer).


‘Po’ positions you in the space surrounding either yes or no as the right answer.

‘Po’ deposits you at the home address of true creativity; that point of power where two opposites meet and merge into a new whole, a new insight, or a new guideline.



What Does This Have To Do With Healing?

Well, here’s the thing. The safest position to take on this question is ‘Po’. Let’s take a look at why I say this.

On the one hand, it sure looks like healers heal others when healing is defined as taking away painbutterfly-on-leaves-in-sun and suffering. If it’s physical pain, the release can be accomplished many ways: an aspirin, acupuncture, surgery, repairing broken links between organs, systems and the brain, and many more.

If it’s emotional pain, reducing that emotional challenge is definitely do-able with the newest Energy Psychology techniques such as Callahan Tapping, EFT, TFT, TAT and many others. You can rearrange the configuration of images, sound, and feeling that create the emotion via techniques from NLP or hypnosis in deep or waking trance. And of course, there’s the age old technique of  simply giving someone a hug or just reaching out and gently taking their hand.

If it’s mental pain, releasing fixed points of view that hamper perceptual flexibility can be accomplished by challenging presuppositions, introducing new models of meaning and purpose, or a simple re-education of how things actually work, like relationships or the fact that consequences are the other side of the coin of accountability.

So clearly healers can release pain in a variety of ways. Yet, here’s where a much more important question emerges; a question far more important for you as the healer than for the one being healed.

Who Is Doing The Healing?
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Ever wish you knew just a little bit more than you do?  Heard someone talking about something and had to pretend you were up on it?  Wished you had the time and energy to take on learning something new?  Felt a little like you’d fallen behind and might not ever catch up with the newest in your field?

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The personal growth industry has become quite prolific in its offering of multiple ways to arrive at good mental health and emotional well-being.  There is so much, you can easily feel left behind and a bit confused about what might be best to explore. So how do you decide which offering is the most valuable?

The thing is – every model has something of value to offer – especially if you’re a coach, counselor, therapist, or hypnotherapist. The more models within your grasp, the greater probability you will have something that fits your client.

This is truly important, for it frees you from making the most common, and often the most hurtful, mistake of our profession: trying to fit your client into the one or two models you’ve chosen to learn – rather than finding the one that fits your client best.  And this can happen whether you’re just starting out, or the consummate, seasoned professional.

Our desire at To Help You Help Others is to expand your awareness of all the models in today’s marketplace for both mental health and emotional well-being.  We’ll show you how learning new ways of approaching old problems will not only refresh a possibly waning interest, but increase your success rate and the frequency of seeing your client’s eyes light up with delight and wonder at how they’ve reached their goal.

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