Why Getting Started With NLP Today Means Greater Success Tomorrow

Why is getting started with NLP as soon as possible so important?  Because with NLP skills in your back pocket, you catapult yourself toward  a very high return on your investment.

And that results in a successful and long term coaching career.

The value of traditional coaching is obvious. Its continued popularity is proof enough. However, often times coaches report feeling they can’t go quite as far in helping their clients as they’d like.

One of my students who was already a traditionally trained coach, recently shared that her client wanted to experience warmth. But she confided to me that she didn’t think writing this on a piece of paper and putting it on the wall would do much to achieve the goal. Nor would affirmations, or creating a strategy to find it.  So this experience revealed a gap in her professional training.

And that triggered her getting started with NLP training.  When the power and perspectives of Neuro-Linguistic Programming enter the scene, you can count on more easily and quickly being free to save the day.

Getting Clear On What You Know & Don’t Know

As a traditionally trained coach, you become very skilled in the art of asking questions.  This is Figure standing on square one of getting started with NLP.essential in several ways.  Questions empower you to do 3 very important things:

      • Separate inquiry from giving advice
      • Discover the client’s goal or outcome
      • Uncover the strategies required to reach the goal

These are important and must be addressed for success.  However, more is often needed to actually move the client toward the desired goal.

I’m sad to say that intellectual clarity does not automatically breed behavioral change.  As a result, you can be crystal clear about what you want AND how to get it;  yet remain unable to actually reach your goal.

Knowing what you need to do, and being able to do it, are two distinct phases of reaching any desired outcome.

Only rarely is this situation the result of laziness or a lack of commitment.  More often than not, it is due to an objection or concern about actually reaching the desired outcome.  And for long term success as a coach, you must know how to identify these objections and how to address them.

NLP Loves Objections: They Are The
Gateway To Transformation

Objections become a problem for the coach when they are approached incorrectly.   So it is imperative that you can recognize these four components:

        1. There is an objection
        2. What the objection is
        3. How to find it
        4. How to successfully answer the objection so it’s no longer an issue

Getting started with NLP skills allows you to address objections easily and quickly.

Many coaches have an adverse reaction to objections. Continue reading

NLP, Your Biology, And Spiritual Healing

your brain will light up when you understand the connection between NLP, your biology, and spiritual healingIn this second installment, let’s take a look at NLP, your biology, and spiritual healing. 

In my previous post What Could NLP Possibly Have To Do With Spirituality, we took a look at how NLP can support the quest for living a more spiritually oriented life.

The article noted that NLP is known for it’s use of language to help bridge the gap between a client’s desired state and their current state. And it does this by tapping into the brain’s power to create new neural pathways.

In this case, the client wants help in bridging the gap between being both a human being and a spiritual being.

 

What You Should Know About Biology &
The Power Of Your Cells 

We all have a mind and a body.

So let’s check out the body’s influence on our desire to evolve and live into a more spiritually informed life. I’m talking here about folks who want more mindfulness, presence, and awareness integrated into their daily activities.

To help us better understand why this is so difficult, let me reference Dr. Bruce Lipton, the creator of The Biology of Perception videos.

In his YouTube videos, Dr. Lipton states that the cells in your body are programmed to do only twoThe world blossoms when you understand the connection between NLP, your biology, and spiritual healing things: either grow or protect.

The cell can be in growth mode. That means moving toward positive signals or nutrients. 

OR, the cell can be in protection mode. That means moving away from negative signals or toxins.

It seems the whole physical system is set up on an either/or basis.  It operates like an on/off switch. It’s not like a dimmer mechanism that flows between on and off.

Unfortunately, ‘flow’  is what folks into meditation, mindfulness, contemplation and living a spiritually infused life are actually asking for.

They want to seamlessly flow between the tasks and responsibilities of being human AND the joys of being divine love and compassion.

BUT … the more protection the cell determines it needs, the less growth it can make. No matter what’s going on, for the cells, it’s all about survival first.

The Desire To Stay Safe
vs. The Desire To Risk Beyond The Known 

Dr. Lipton says that ‘perception rewrites genes’. If he’s correct, how you perceive things can affect your biology, brain, and behavior.  Wow!  That is a very amazing thing to consider.

Remember the three sets of conflicting guidelines identified in the last post? And how we almost always find ourselves struggling over which guideline to follow? 

I’ll share them again so they’re fresh in your mind.

Human Self:    Keep moving & go after what you want.
Divine Self:     Stay still & be grateful for what is.

Human Self:   Focus on the future & expect to get what you want
Divine Self:     Focus on the present & let things be as they are.

Human Self:   Heal your wounds from the past.
Divine Self:     You are perfect as you are. 

We struggle with these because we view them as contradictory and incompatible.animation of confused person trying to make a decision

As we struggle to make a choice, it feels like a real battle in our body – stressful, frustrating, and confusing.  Which will win our energy and commitment?

Perceiving these guidelines with mindfulness and presence would be approaching them as complementary.

Remember the cells? When they’re healthy, they can stay balanced, growing when needed, and protecting when needed. No fight.  Just responding to the call of the moment.

You can transform your perception of these contradictory guidelines to actually being complementary to each other.  You can learn to perceive them as a working partnership which in fact they actually are.

 

Embracing this understanding can free you to create a new neural pathway in the brain. And you can embrace them most easily with the support of language & imagination.

And these are the cornerstones of the NLP model for accelerated behavioral change.

Not Sure Brain Cells Can Grow New Neural Networks?

Here’s the link to a 42 second YouTube video showing a time lapse of a neural network growing over 170 hours. CLICK BELOW TO WATCH

So what can trigger the creation of a new neural pathway?  How can combining NLP, your biology & spiritual healing cause this happen?

Transforming the new idea into language & then into imagination. 

Of course, the new perception has to be strong enough to actually stimulate the brain into action. That can take a long time.  However, NLP can help you speed up the process. It is truly  worth checking out.

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Much love to you,
Ragini

 

 

 

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Draining Beliefs Of Their Truthful Feeling

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By Ragini Michaels

Beliefs are the glue that hold a personal reality in place. And when that reality gets stretched to its limits, the beliefs either break down, making space for something new, or settle into the shape of a conviction that cannot be moved or shaken.

Clients come in all shapes and sizes as do their beliefs.  In addition, the way they relate to their beliefs is also quite varied. Here are a few tips for identifying where your client is in this vast spectrum, and how to respond:

  • Has your client questioned whether or not their beliefs are the TRUTH? Or do they just assume what they believe IS the truth and operate from that assumption?

    Help your client explore alternative perspectives via the ‘as if’ question format:  Now I know this isn’t the truth, but WHAT IF the opposite were the actual case?  What new options might be there? Or how might you relate to things differently if you approached the situation with this alternative view?

  • Is it clear to you that they have thought about the validity of their belief and remain convinced that their belief is indeed the TRUTH.

    Help your client think a bit more deeply by gently offering counterexamples that challenge their conviction as a universal truth. Keep it light and in the form of a question:  What about the circumstance where (counterexample) happens? How do you imagine that can occur?

  • Some clients intellectually know that their beliefs are not true and that they limit them. BUT the beliefs still feel true in their bodies. This is confusing to most people and can evoke feelings of shame and a sense of failure and/or incompetence.

    Help your client understand this is a great place to be and that it is now possible to get rid of that feeling of truth in the body. Explain that the belief still feels like a truth in the body because of the amount of emotional charge attached to it.

    If you have permission from their system to clear out this belief because it limits them, you can proceed to an Energy Psychology tool or equivalent process. The objective is to choose a tool that will lower the emotional charge until the belief shifts from the felt sense of a truth back into simply a thought that they can act on or not.

There may be other categories of response to seemingly truthful beliefs as well.  But these three seem to be most prevalent.

BASIC NOTIONS ABOUT BELIEFS & TRUTH

There are some basic notions about beliefs and truth to explore with your10280412_s client when needed.

First, make sure your client can distinguish between a relative truth (one that has operating relevance in their personal life) versus an absolute truth (one that is true for everyone, or universally). Offering this distinction can open the door to greater possibilities, insights, and understandings.

For example, how they relate to pistachio ice cream (it’s the best to it sucks) offers a truth based on their own experience (bite of ice cream  + like or dislike flavor + generalization out to all pistachio flavored things + the same response will be there for all people who eat pistachio ice cream). Obviously, not everyone experiences pistachio ice cream with the same response. Thus their experience is relative.

Experiences that fall into universal truth would be rain is wet, oranges are round, breathing  is composed of an in-breath and an out-breath. These experiences are the same for all people.

Second, the introduction of this distinction creates awareness that the reason we form beliefs is because we can’t know the actual truth. When this is the case, we almost always will create a story or belief that helps us better navigate the unknown or unknowable. For example, beliefs about what happens after death, or deciding that Jane didn’t go out on a second date with Hal because he’s overweight.

Bringing conscious awareness to this distinction makes the freedom they’ve been seeking from the limitation/problem/challenge more available. And that is part of what brought them to see you in the first place, whether they consciously knew it or not.

Simply becoming aware that Belief IS NOT EQUAL To Truth can be incredibly freeing.

BELIEFS, TRUTH, AND POLARIZATION

Extreme polarization is increasingly common today.  And with it, comes increased stress8248999_s and anxiety. Why?

No fixed idea can become a permanent guide to happiness or peace of mind.  Things evolve, growth happens, and things change.

When our beliefs are fixed, we lose the ability to navigate our lives and the world effectively.

Without flexibility, we cannot navigate the continually shifting twists and turns of life. And as we’re seeing, this can result in extreme reactive behavior (anger, violence, war), or giving way to giving up  (sadness, despair, hopelessness, and helplessness).

Once your client knows intellectually that their belief is not THE truth and thus limiting them from accessing their full potential to respond, you’ve got a green light to go ahead and show your client how to drain that belief of all its power.

And be sure to remind them that they can direct their own process to re channel the released energy into a new form of expression that is of their own choice (curiosity, excitement, flexibility of viewpoint, etc).

Hope these tips have opened up a new door or two to better serving your clients with love and respect. The beauty of the journey is right there in the unfolding of their own unique process.

If you have any questions, or would like to know more, please give me a call at 425 462 4369.

Best to you,
Ragini

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