One of the worst things you can do is inadvertently offer your client a goal they can’t reach.
Well, sure. They’ll probably be able to reach it someday. After all, that’s part of your job, right? To hold the dream of their success, competence, value and worth as inevitable, even when they can’t see it?
But one of the biggest problems I see is coaches who offer too much, too fast; and many counselors and therapists frequently doing the opposite and offering too little, too slowly.
Somewhere in between the two is the optimal goal.
How do you find it?
1st – My suggestion is to always take the time to create an absolutely, unequivocally, beyond a shadow of a doubt, reachable outcome. By that I mean an outcome your client can reach while they’re still working with you – preferably before they leave your office each and every meeting.
2nd – Break down the big goal into the little goals essential to reaching the big one. Goals that entail overhauling a complete life style are not quickly reachable outcomes. The wise coach or counselor keeps breaking down the big goal into the little goals that have to be reached before the final destination comes into view.
We all know that in order to someday dance, you have to start as a baby, rolling over onto your belly from your back. This has to happen before you can crawl; and crawling has to happen before you can stand; and standing before you can walk, and walking before you can run, and running before you can finally dance freely and with abandon.
Most goals are usually reachable, but always in small steps. Your job is to make sure your client is focused on the step in front of them.
And it’s your job to put that step in view and keep it there until it’s reached and the next step comes into view.
The bigger the scope of the change, the more small steps will be required. Here are some categories Continue reading