The Benefits Of NLP Training – Transform Possibility Into Probability

Why am I writing about the benefits of NLP training? I’ve been meeting lots of folks recently who are ready to offer a live or on-line program for something they love and want to share.  But in chatting with each one, I found the majority did not have any training in how to work with people A pile of books and the words Back To School to answer the question of whether to get more NLP training or not.to help them move toward a certain goal.

I kept getting asked, “Do I need a certification? Do I have to become a student again?” Well, here are a few thoughts to consider.


NLP Training Beneficial To Your Coaching Success?
Yes! And No!

There are many reasons to forget about becoming certified.  If you’re looking at marketing yourself as a coach, there are currently no hoops you would have to jump through.  There are no legal requirements for taking on that title and throwing your hat in the ring.

However, coaching another human being so that they succeed in reaching their goal can be confusing and challenging.

Blue figure with 2 dialogue clouds coming out of his head as he contemplates the benefits of NLP training.A recent client who was offering a transformation group shared an upsetting experience. She said when she finished her guided visualization during one of the course meetings, a participant revealed that they couldn’t visualize.

The participant shared that she felt frustrated and felt bad because they couldn’t do what my client was asking them to do.  And, my point is this.

My client said she didn’t have a clue what to say or what to do next.

This is an excellent example of the kinds of experience a lack of training can produce. This, and so many other tools for communication and connection, are part of what you learn in NLP Coach Certification Training.


Certification Confers Credibility & Possibilities

More people than you think assume their coach must have some kind of training, or they wouldn’t be offering their services. So when they Google you, they’re looking for proof that you’ve completed some training program.  Thus, the upside of certification is that you’re automatically Image of lady holding a briefcase that has the word "skills" on it representing the benefits of NLP training..granted credibility.

Credentials often free clients from worrying about how long you’ve been in the business, or how good or not so good you might be. So it’s obvious that certification carries a lot of weight because it creates helpful assumptions that usually remain unchallenged.

But most important, certification gives you the actual skill development that most untrained coaches don’t have.  So it allows you to have the tools, and the skills to use them. Thus you’re able to give you and your business the great reputation you want to create.

Reputations are important because great reputations bring you new clients, repeat clients, and fabulous referrals.  And your skill is what makes this happen.


Are You Talking About Transformation? Or Delivering It? 

There are many benefits to NLP training. But one of the greatest is being able to deliver your client to what they know they need; whether they believe they don’t have it, can’t find it, or can’t reach it, even if they’ve experienced it before.

Secret #One:

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What’s The Importance Of Building Rapport In Coaching?

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courtesy of www.PresenterMedia.com – Article by Ragini Michaels

Could you be underestimating the importance of building rapport in coaching?  Here’s why it is extremely important; and why it is not to be overlooked:

  • Rapport is the number one key to having your clients return. Not only for a few follow up sessions. But calling you for help with new issues years later, again and again. They will remember you and court your guidance to help them navigate through new problems. And all of this based on the rapport you established the first time around.

  • Rapport is the number one key to unlocking your client’s desire to shout your name to the rooftops with lavish and powerful referrals. They feel happy with how they felt in your presence. AND grateful you helped them get where they wanted to go. With great rapport, clients can hardly contain their joy and will sing your praises to everyone they know. (Ok. A bit of an exaggeration. But still, after 4 decades of private practice sustained by client referrals only, I can’t say it’s that much of an exaggeration.)

  • Rapport is the number one key to transforming the most difficult and resistant client into one of the easiest and most fun to work with. Knowing how to purposely boxer_throwing_punches_anim_500_clr_6563build rapport can move the most recalcitrant person into wanting to give up the fight. This situation almost begs for your own creative juices to get involved.  And that’s where it becomes fun to work with the previously thought to be ‘difficult and un-coachable’ client.

When I’ve asked coaching professionals if they agree with the importance of building rapport in coaching, this is what I hear again and again: ‘That’s a no-brainer.  Of course it’s important’

Yet, when I ask how they know, for sure, they have rapport, I get a variety of interestingflip_a_coin_catch_500_clr_15516 answers:

  • They seem to like me.
  • Well, they answer all my questions.
  • I’ve worked with their problem before, so my confidence inspires trust.
  • I listen a lot and am not intrusive.
  • I match them energetically and that’s all it takes.
  • My reputation precedes me, so of course they feel comfortable.

So, if what you’re doing is keeping your practice up and running, and growing, that’s great.

But if not, read on and I’ll share with you the real importance of building rapport in coaching. But first….

What is Rapport, Really?

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Well, let me start with what rapport actually isn’t. It’s good to be clear about this. If you start to feel like you’re trying to push a square peg into a round hole, that’s a clue you don’t have it.

Rapport is not:

  • Being liked.
  • People answering your questions
  • Established automatically because of your background or reputation
  • Listening avidly and not asking too many questions.
  • Being from the same hometown, or having the same teachers.

People go to a coach for help in changing a wide range of things: behaviors, limiting beliefs, or debilitating and hurtful notions about who they think they are.

It is this conscious desire to change behavior that can bring them to an NLP Coach rather than a traditionally trained coach.

This is because an NLP Coach is not only trained in the art of skillful inquiry.  They are also trained in the science of accelerated behavioral change.

When does the importance of building rapport in coaching becomes obvious? When you realize it’s the unconscious mind you have to work with. No behavioral change can happen without it’s blessing.

The Key To Accelerated Behavioral Change

Many avenues of personal growth rest on the notion that if you understand why what you’re doing isn’t working, you should be able to change it.

If your strategy is wrong and you generate a new one, you should then be free to do what you couldn’t do before.

If your belief is wrong and you can figure out the right belief, then you should be able to behave in the new ways it allows.

Up to a point, this is certainly true and a useful course of action. But how about after that woman_back_and_forth_questions_500_clr_12477point?

When behaviors don’t change and shifting beliefs and strategies don’t do the trick, another angle of vision is needed.

That angle becomes available in a fundamental NLP skill-set:

The skills for communicating not only with the client’s conscious mind, but with their unconscious mind as well.

Why is this extremely important to know?

It is the unconscious mind that has the power to embrace
OR veto your client’s conscious desire for change.

In NLP, building rapport means establishing trust – with the unconscious mind. And that’s what cinches the importance of building rapport in coaching.

Your client’s unconscious mind needs to trust YOU before it will explore the possibility of embracing that desired new behavior.

Rapport & Your  Client’s Unconscious Mind

Your client’s conscious desire to change is what brings them to you asking for help.  The unconscious mind’s desire is to keep things as they are.show_police_badge_PA_500_clr_3933

The unconscious mind’s job is to protect the client.  It operates out of an uncompromising commitment to safety and protection.

And this is what can make it so difficult, or seemingly impossible, for the client to get the change they want.

The unconscious mind can be completely unaware that a behavior is no longer working for the client.

So it operates under the notion that when something isn’t broken, don’t mess with it.  Keeping the status quo is its favorite M.O.

When you have rapport with the unconscious mind, it trusts you.
But more importantly, it will communicate with you.

As a coach, you want to be free to communicate directly with the mind that is in charge of behavior.

This reveals the importance of building rapport in coaching – and maintaining it throughout your session.  Without it, the process of change can be much slower and stodgier than it needs to be.


If you’re interested in learning more, please CLICK HERE  to sign up for my FREE 30 Minute Webinar – The Art Of Rapport – this coming Tuesday, July 23rd at 9 am PST.

A recording will be available, so be sure to sign up even if you can’t attend.  And I’ll be including a free download – Tips For Creating Rapport.

I hope you found this interesting.  If you’d like to chat with me personally, just go to www.Calendly.com/rm–10/30min to schedule a 30 minute free call at your convenience. I’d be delighted to meet you.

Much love,
Ragini

 

 

 

Ready To Learn Something New & Dazzling? Truly Beyond Belief?

Any of your clients mentioned what I call the alphabet tools, like EFT, TAT, TFT, EMDR and other energy psychology techniques?

Have you wondered yet if they’re really effective? Have you thought about learning them by surfing the internet? Or buying a few books? Or have you already tried them out but still feel less than comfortable about bringing your knowledge back into the office?

If you’re like me, you probably don’t want to bring a new tool into your work unless you’ve got a good understanding of what it is and how it works. You want to feel like you can answer any questions your client might ask you.

Almost 20 years ago, I found myself pulled into a training for something called EMDR. It took a bit of courage because at the time, it was definitely odd, and assuredly out of my comfort zone. But I was always willing to use anything that worked. And because EMDR did get results, it quickly became a part of my professional repertoire.

Then, one of my EMDR trained colleagues got interested in an acupressure technique called TFT (Thought Field Therapy). Through a series of synchronistic events, I found myself in yet another odd training which led me to another and then another. As a result of this exploration and exposure, my entire way of perceiving my work changed – in a very good way.

orange alphabet 900x602But there was a problem. As a fairly traditional psychotherapist with nearly twenty years of experience, I was seriously challenged on how to integrate into my practice what I knew were extremely useful tools. How do you introduce these valuable methods to your clients?

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